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Sep. 1st, 2008 @ 02:27 am
paradoxprincess
Hello I'm not sure if it's common to make an intro post but I thought I might as well introduce myself. My name's Natasha. I live in Winnipeg. I'm interested in just making friends or something more but should tell people up front that I am asexual bi-romantic. I would like to meet people from Wpg. but also from anywhere else in the country. I like having msn friends so. Anyway this seems like a nice community. Glad to have found it.
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Feb. 20th, 2007 @ 05:00 pm
bossunova
I' m looking for Pavel Burov from Monreal! Who knows him? Please send my regards to him)))

"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women— And What To Do About It...” Dec. 26th, 2006 @ 12:58 am
wallbay1


“The
Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably

Make With Women—

And What To Do About It...


Here
Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With Women—And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid
Every One Of These Deadly Common Mistakes...


-By
David DeAngelo, Author Of “Double Your Dating”


MISTAKE
#1: Being

Too Much Of A “Nice Guy”


Have
you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted "nice"
guys?



Of course you have.


Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed
to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested
in YOU.


What's going on here?


It's actually very simple...


Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose
the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.


And guess what?


Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.


And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.


I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to
ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.


Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success
with women that you want.


MISTAKE
#2: Trying To

“Convince Her To Like You"


What do most guys
do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just notinterested?



Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.


Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN
IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!



Never, ever, EVER.


You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and
reasoning".


Think about it.


If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change
that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?


But we all do it.


When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best
to change her mind.


Bad idea. One that will never work.



MISTAKE
#3: Looking To Her

For Approval Or Permission


In our desire
to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are
always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".



Another HORRIBLE idea.


Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.


Don't get me wrong here.


You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.


But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval
and permission for things", think again.


You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED
at men who seek their approval.


Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around
and want her approval annoy her...




MISTAKE #4: Trying To “Buy” Her Affection With Food And Gifts


How many times
have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and
had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?



If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.


Well guess what?


It's only NATURAL when this happens...


That's right, I said NATURAL.


When you do these things, you send a clear message:


"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your
attention and affection".


Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity,
and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as
MANIPULATION.



MISTAKE
#5: Sharing

“How You Feel” Too Early In

The Relationship With Her


Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most
men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.


Attractive women are rare.


And they get a LOT of attention from men.


Most men don't realize this, but attractive
women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE

An attractive woman is often approached several
times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per
week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.


And guess what?


Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of
men.


That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.


They know what to expect.


And one thing that turns an attractive women
off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts
saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.


This signals to the woman that you're just like
all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.


Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.


There's a much better way...


MISTAKE
#6: Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women


Women are VERY
different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.



You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.


When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual
attraction.


But does the same apply for women?


Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something
else going on?


Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you
that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER
than looks.


Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men
with beautiful women than the other way around?


Think about it.


Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted
to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.


If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you
can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU
feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.


But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.


And ANY guy can learn how...




MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It

Takes Money And Looks


One of the most
common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started...
because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks
and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.



And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.


But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet
or his looks.


There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...


And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these
guys.


YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall,
or handsome.


Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication
correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction
to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.




MISTAKE
#8: Giving Away

All Of Your Power To Women


Earlier I mentioned
that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.



Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER
to women.


Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the
woman wants.


Another bad idea...


Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't
attracted to Wussies!




MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing

EXACTLY What To Do In Each

Type Of Situation With Women


Now I'm going to
blow your mind...



A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.


Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language.
That's ten TIMES.


I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date
with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.


And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and
you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!


And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...


Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting
physical... everything.


If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it
up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.


And you KNOW it.


It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the
next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.




MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP



This is the biggest mistake of all.


This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success
with women that they truly want.


I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't
like to ask for help.


Hey, I've been there myself.


Let me tell you a little about me and how I figured out how to be successful
with women...


About five years ago I became fed up with the fact that I didn't know how
to approach, meet, and get dates with women that I was attracted to.


It frustrated the hell out of me.


One night I was out with a friend, and I saw a woman I wanted to ask out,
but I just couldn't get up the nerve to do it. I can still remember that night...
right on the spot I made the decision to do whatever it took to learn how to be
successful with women and dating.


Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally
figured it all out.


I can now approach just about any woman and get her number almost instantly.
I've dated models, I've dated actresses, and I've dated nice, normal, regular
girls as well.


It has been a very rewarding experience. I no longer feel that sick, insecure
feeling... like I don't know how to meet women... and I might wind up alone.


I know that anytime, anywhere, I can go out and meet attractive women.


I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of
the United States... and taught tens of thousands of men all around the world.




I Now Have A FREE, Three-Times-

A-Week Email Newsletter...


...But
the REALLY GREAT news is that I now publish a free email newsletter three times
a week that teaches any guy how to increase his success with women DRAMATICALLY.



And I'd like to invite you to sign up.


It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never share your email address with
anyone, and you can easily remove yourself anytime with no hassles (and no, I'll
never pull any of these tricks where I send you a bunch of unwanted junk email
when you try to remove yourself).


Of course, it even get's better than that...


In addition to my free email newsletter, I also have a killer downloadable
eBook that you can download right now and be reading in literally MINUTES from
right now.


It's JAM PACKED with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for overcoming
fear, approaching women, getting phone numbers and email address from women quickly,
great inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical"
level smoothly and easily.


To sign up for my free three-times-a-week newsletter AND download your copy
of this online eBook, just go here:




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And Download eBook



Oh,
And One More Thing...


In this day and
age of "instant gratification", I realize that this might just sound like another
late-night info-mercial promising to make you rich by next week.



Well, that's not the case.


I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy writing this eBook. I wanted
to design and create a program that ANY guy could easily understand and start
using IMMEDIATELY to meet and date more women... without having to lie, do dishonest
things, or be "manipulative".


I now believe that ANY man can be more successful with women and dating, and
I get emails every day with success stories from guys who are using this program
to meet and date wonderful women.


I know, I know... an ebook that can teach a regular guy how to be more successful
in the dating world? No way.


Well believe me, this program will DRAMATICALLY increase your success with
women... I absolutely guarantee it 100%.


If you'd like to take your success with women and dating to the next level,
and have the kind of success that you've always wanted, then go sign up for my
free newsletter, get all the details, and check out some great free samples of
the eBook located here:




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Newsletter And Download eBook


And
I'll talk to you again soon.



Your Friend,








David
DeAngelo



P.S.
Do some friends a favor, and FORWARD this article to their
email addresses. It might be the biggest gift you ever give them.





_____________________________________________________________

Copyright 2004 David DeAngelo Communications Inc., All Rights Reserved. David
DeAngelo and Double Your Dating are trademarks of David DeAngelo Communications
Inc.




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Oct. 15th, 2005 @ 10:59 am
thesilentgirl
Hi everyone again!
- It's been a long time since I've written and asked for advice. Last time I was livejournal and recieved a bunch of replies was back beginning of August. I just want to thank everyone for taking time and writing their comment and advices for me. they truly helped! xoxox!

But there's another delimma. I'm not going to make one of the 'longest' post that someone has seen so im going to try and make it short as possible. I'm the girl that posted about being with her boyfriend for two years and got back together in the summer and he heard rumors that I slept around and cheated on him and he didnt believe me and said some hurtful things to me that I tried to commit suicide and ended up having to seek help. Well he just completely stopped talking to me and we havent spoken or seen each other in over 2 1/2 months. Well now he started to contact me, and tried to talk and now he wants to get back together and realized he made a mistake and NOW realizes that I was telling the truth and did not cheat on him. I mean he told me it was a mistake to love me and a mistake to get back together in the summer and now he tells me he realized what he had when he lost me and never wants to lose me. He tells me how much he loves me and needs me... but he hurt me so badly that I dont know what love is that i dont know about caring and I dont know what to do. I love him and still care for him just indifferent wants. He thinks we're back together but I want to be with him but there's something that's holding me back. I mean he LEFT me, he didnt TRUST me, he couldnt even TALK to me about it just falt out accused me of cheating and stopped talking and put me through shit. I dont know if I need time to myself or to try and slowly get back together... Im scared of getting hurt and for him to lie and I dont know what to do! I guess you can from coming back to school and starting a new life without him and meeting new people and trying to move on helped and I became adjusted to it and out of the blue right when im getting my life back on track he starts talking to me,and it's like I'm not used to this that I'm being all thrown off... and starting to get all depressed about it. I need as much help as possible please! I dont need this anymore in my life I just want to be HAPPY! I hope you guys can help!


Thanks Guys! Love you LJ!

Alex

Aug. 17th, 2005 @ 10:22 pm
rev3
Hey,

New in the community, 24, male, in Vancouver looking to meet people. Also I was wondering if there is a Vancouver community of the ilk or if I have to make that happen.
TKS
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» (No Subject)
Hey everyone!

There is a new community started for Edmonton.
It is all for those interested in the clubs and night life of Edmonton.
It is also a good opportunity to meet people from Edmonton, and check out the scene.
Hope you drop by!

Party In Edmonton!
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I no longer know what to do. I've been with this guy for two years, dating pretty seriously. We met our senior year of high school things were going really well...Then we went off to College, separate colleges 3 hours apart from one another. We've been this strong dependency on each other where we would visit one another on the weekends. We loved each other so much but arguments started... The long distances were really hard. I felt depressed and would cut myself it was hard and at times I'd fly back home to be with family because I was so homesick. Anyway... we fought and fought over the stupidest things. I then transfered to the school where my boyfriend was. I did not go there because he was there.... I actually was accepted there 1st semester but didnt want to go to the same school because I felt that there would be wayy too much dependency but I transfered to get into this program that I wanted to study. January when I first arrived things were a little cold towards one another had arguments here and there, but we had our good days. It just seems as though once we left home things started to fall apart. I mean dont get me wrong, the relationship we had was healthy. So febuary came around and things just got worse and worse and we became distant. He was upset that I was making more friends than him and I had only been there for one month. As a side note, 1st semester I did not go out at all to show that he can trust me you know... anyway so we started to do our own things. As Febuary came to an end we decided to take a break because the arguments just got worse and worse... So we hardly spoke it was really sad and upseting because he was my best friend.... I started to go and meet new people, try and make new friends it was hard because alot of the times I did not want to go out because he was always on my mind and I wanted to be with him. I guess by me not going out as much 1st smester I needed to get my energy out. He was ready to settle and I wasnt I mean dont get me wrong 18 years old I want to go out and have some fun first you know. He admitted later on he was controlling a bit but also on my part I wasnt thinking of his feelings in which I should have. Anyway... So I had a bad experience in the past 2 years ago where ever since I've had big issues being alone with a guy. So I've always had this (i know im a dork but w.e) buddy system thing with a close friend that we'd stick together no matter what... so when a guy wanted to hang out I'd always ask to hangout as a group and I'd bring a few friends along, so what if I didnt get to know the guy one on one but at the same time, I felt more comfortable around people I knew and trusted. I kissed a guy at the end of the school year but it meant nothing at all.. I wasnt looking for a relationsihp and he commented that the kiss we had felt like his 5 year old cousin would kiss him goodbye... I was like uhhhhhh ok?!?!?! lol messed up but whatever it meant nothing. Through all this time it was hard because I kept thinking about my ex. There's a reason as well why he broke up with me. When I was at a kegger I was with friends and we were all just joking around and a friend and I for a silly reason gave the "peck" face but later on in the pic looking at it looks like we were kissing and I guess it was bad... and my boyfriend didnt know what to think and it was understandble... and he wouldnt want to talk to me... I mean my friend that was in the picture with me is gay.... so I dunno... anyway.... So summer arrived and we havent really spoken or seen each other... we lost touch or I guess you can say cut communicating for about a good month... and started to talk it was hard at first being 'just' friends but it was nice to see him than not seeing him at all. Beginning of June, I had mentioned to him that I was sick from the pregnancy I had with him a year 1/2 ago... I dunno if it was out of pitty or because he really wanted to at first but started to hang out... later on I knew it's because he wanted to. Anyway, he held a get together where he drank ALOT with his friends and did his own thing, he thought that this get together would help me be a little happier and not to think much of the worst that could happen... so I got to see my friends and I was happy. Anyway so he got really really drunk pretty much close to alcohol poisining, everyone left to go to a party and I ended up staying at taking care of him. Yes, we were only friends and I didnt have to stay and I could have gone to the party with my friends but I loved him and still cared and I mean if I were in that position I knew he would do the same for me...so I made sure he was still breathing and he was alright. I would check up on him almost every 10 minutes... I didnt get much sleep but i was worried. The next morning he didnt remember anything so I had to tell him the entire story... since that night it was like we became closer as friends... still hard being 'just' friends but it was nice... Later on, two weeks, I wrote him this note, because earlier in the summer he wanted to know how I felt and I didnt have the right words really so I told him I would let him know when I knew what I wanted to say... and I wrote him this letter with a card and it's like he rejected me, I was so upset and devistated but we started talking and ended up hanging out the rest of the night and we ended up sleeping together... and since then we started to fool around we didnt know what was going on, sort of confusing, it felt right at times and it felt wrong at times but we still loved each other and missed each other. We'd hangout everyday without the affection towards one another it was nice. As July came along I went to Canada for vacation for 2 weeks.... we tried to keep in touch as much but the long distance was hard because I had family things to deal with and he was working everyday. When I came back a couple days after I came back, we went out for dinner and a movie. We talked alot about our past relationship with one another and questioned how things would be. We truly opened up at dinner and at times I wanted to cry but I managed to hold it all in. Later on that evening as we were getting ready to see a movie, he asked me "why dont we give it another shot" and I was happy but surprised at the same time to hear him as that. I was not sure if I wanted to because we did argue alot in the past and was really hurt and I didnt want to get hurt again and he said that if it didnt work out we'd promise each other to remain best friends and still be there for each other.... so I said alright... it was weird to go back again to dating the holding hands and affection it was weird but took time to adapt to. So things were going well... we agreed that the relationship would only work if there was trust and communication so we started to communicate more. If something was wrrong we'd talk about it and we did. It's like we became closer in a way and I was somewhat starting to get happy or feel what happy was like. It was like a natural high... anyway... Beginning of August his friend from school Mike, came down to visit him... and I dont really like the kid because I felt like he was a bad influence on my boyfriend but I didnt know him much so I gave it another chance to get to know him. So my bf had a last get together on a friday and alot of people showed up... we drank alot and caught up with friends it was nice... but my boyfriend didnt talk to me as much and I guess it was understandble bc there were guests but it bothered me because he'd have his hand around my friend and talked to her face pretty close... it was as though he were talking to her more than me... and I guess it was a form of jealousy but Im sure he wouldnt like it if I were like that to a guy that close to his face... anyway I got sick later on in the night and almost passed out outside.. he didnt care to see how I was and it hurt because earlier in the summer I was there for him.. and he got all upset.. an yway I tried to talk about it in the morning and he'd deny it but w.e he apologies so I was like hm ok he does care ok. Saturday night he went to his dad's house with his friend and mentioned to me that he wanted to hang out, so I invited him and his friend over and to ask other people to come but he told me they were too tired and wanted to stay at his dad's. Later on I find out they went out I just wish he was honest... We planned to go to the beach monday and tuesday so we tried to plan it out sunday night... on the phone he was cold and bitter... when I wasnt done talking he thought I was done and yelled out "BYE" and I asked if I could finish and he yelled "hurry the fuck up" and he's never like that he's always sweet and kind.. so I didnt knwo what was going on. He then avoided me for several days... I find out from a friend that my bf was avoiding me because "I slept around at school, and cheated on him" It hurt that people would say such a thing because I'm honestly not like that. I've NEVER EVER EVER cheated on him. I believe no person deserves that at all to be cheated on. and a cheater has no self dignity or respect for people. Yes I will agree that we've lied towards one another but I would never lie in a way that would hurt the relationship. I dont understand! Yes I did kiss a guy but that was when we broke up. I mean he kissed a girl in september when we were TOGETHER and told me in April... he asked me if I did anything with a guy and I should have flat out told him about kissing a guy but I didnt think it was that big... i still should have been open about it. I do remember when I came back from school I spoke to a few girls... and they thought I'd move on fast from him so I didnt want to seem like wuss or like a dependent freak on him so I made up crap that I moved on from him and got with all these guys... but I never thought that would get back to him... I mean one of my friends she even commented what a bad liar I was and knew by just looking at me that I loved my bf too much to do that... and it was silly and stupid for me to do but I just hate it when people make fun of me... and it didnt cross my mind and I should have told him but I didnt think it mattered. I mean he knows my past and he knows that I get uncomfortable around guys alone. I wouldnt be in a room alone with a guy I didnt know or a guys he didnt know like my guys friends from home I was fine because I really knew them... but he doesnt believe me.. and I dont blame him I mean people will believe the worst. If I cheated on him while we were together, why would I be around all the argument why would I stick around to try and fix it, why would i cry every night wanting to fix things with him? He yelled at me saying that he didnt hate me but I feel like he does. He told me I was a mistake everything was a mistake getting back together and loving me was a mistake. It hurts sooo much to wake up everyday and know that everything was a mistake to him.... I mean god I should have been honest with my girlfriends... I just dont know what to do... I wrote him a letter explaining everything but he prob thinks that Im just lying and I dont know what to do... and this is where I'm asking for your advice... I never cheated on him. I did so much and went out of my way for him why would I cheat on someone I love that's what I dont get?!?!?! WHAT DO I DO!?!?! i feel like he's not going to talk to me anymore... and he hasnt. We go to the same university just live like 2 minutes away... we weont have internet or a phone right when we get there bc we will be living in a new house separate houses... do I give him his space not communicating and then stop by his place and tyr to talk to him? or let him come to me?! it's not even that i just really want to make him see that I am telling the truth... I feel like im in a movie where a crime as been committed and i'm on death row for it and I didnt even commit the crime you know... I've been crying everyday straight had no motivation on going out and became suicidal... i feel like I have nothing to live for... and i havent done anything stupid because I keep hoping the next day that he will realize the truth and speak to me.. but I dont even know if he read my email that i wrote to him or not. I NEED YOUR HELP because im starting to become depressed and I've almost done stupid things that I'm getting sent away for help before school and I just need ur help on giving me advice on what to do. He's my life, my sanity! I used to cut and was depressed but he helped me stop and he taught me what love was and he was my best friend and it's like a huge part of me is missing... please help... - as many people as possible would be nice to hear just to see what you guys say I would truly appreciate it.... as you can see I am truly upset... and falling into a depression over something stupid I did... from now I im sticking to the truth and not making up stuff just to try and make myself feel better... and to be honest no matter how much people will make fun of me... it was a mistake and he's never going to believe me. I just hope that one day he realizes that I was telling the truth.... I pray.
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northern_bc
This is a new community for people living in northern BC, including the Cariboo-Chilcotin area. Come check it out!
» Ottawa / Outaouais Region in Canada
Hi.
I live in the Outaouais region in Canada. I am 21 years old, female, bisexual, looking to make friends my age. I just want to meet some people to be able to go out to coffee shops to chit chat, spend time with, whatever.

If anyone is interested they can e-mail me at k_hall@videotron.ca or message me on MSN at khall@cegep-heritage.qc.ca

Thank you!
» This a translation of the poem (Te amo =I love you) by Mario Benedetti
As i said this a bad translation of a extract of a poem called (Te quiero = I love you) that is one of my favourites.

Tus manos son mi caricia
mis acordes cotidianos
te quiero porque tus manos
trabajan por la justicia
(tr)Your hands are my caress,
my daily chords
I love you because your hands
work for the justice

si te quiero es porque sos
mi amor mi cómplice y todo
y en la calle codo a codo
somos mucho más que dos
(tr) If I love you is because
you are my love, my accomplice and everything
and together in the street
we are more than a simple couple.

tus ojos son mi conjuro
contra la mala jornada
te quiero por tu mirada
que mira y siembra futuro
(tr) your eyes are my incantation
against the bad journey
I love you for your look
that looks and sows future.

te quiero en mi paraíso
es decir que en mi país
la gente vive feliz
aunque no tenga permiso
(tr) I love you en my paradise
I mean in my country
where the people are happy
even though they don’t have permission.
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